The quick fix

“God, give me patience. Now!” I used to laugh at this joke. Now I realize it sums up our generation. We live fast-paced lives. And we’re always running after the next quick fix. Why is this? Where did we miss the chance to learn that perseverance pays out? Why do we not like the idea…

PMS – when the princess becomes the witch

If you’re female – this post is written for you! Because I wish someone would have shared this with me years ago! If you’re male – please stay and read on! I also wish that men develop more understanding why we sometimes seem to come from another planet. I would say I behave like a…

Ways out of isolation – Attachment Theory

Intimate relationships are the masterpiece. The place where we graduate. Everything we learn and practice in friendships is being put on trial when it comes to love relationships. The closer someone gets to our heart, the more power we allow this person to have over us, the deeper we get triggered, the more we fear…

Embracing my limitations.

Embracing my limitations means knowing my abilities. It means respecting myself. I am still learning about the importance of boundaries. It can be hard work to establish these as we are being confronted with unconscious patterns while doing so. Boundaries are important to keep us alive – on a biological level but also on a…

Love & healing. Healing & love.

Love hit me. Again. I’ve lost count over the last year, the year I decided to embrace all my emotions (a very brave decision, I warn you!). A storm of emotions emerged after I had suppressed everything that threatened my life plan for years. Here I am again, in love. Differently than before, of course,…

Disconnection & connection

My latest realization is that I tend to disconnect when it would be most important not to. It hit me like a hammer today. And it seems to explain a lot of my behaviour and my experiences in the last year. I feel very lonely at times. And this not necessarily at times I was…

The call

I heard the call. I heard the forest calling me. I heard the trees whispering my name. I heard the leaves clasping when I came. I heard the earth saying my name, gently, with so much wisdom and knowing. I heard the call deep within me, resonating. I heard the forest calling me, nature embracing…

All my independent women… – The new feminine Part II

“You need to become more independent.” – “You can’t let a man decide over your life.” – “You are complete within yourself, you don’t need a man.” – “You need to learn to love yourself first and to feel complete without a man.” Yes, I agree. Sounds all good to me, and since a year…

Dear Aotearoa …

In October 2018 I thought I had to leave New Zealand soon, and it broke my heart. On my road trip to Te Rerenga Wairua (Cape Reinga) I wrote this poem: Kia ora, Aotearoa It feels like severe heartbreak, the thought of leaving you soon. Four months are never enough to discover your hidden beauty….

Generation porn

Generation porn. Full of look-a-likes, under constant pressure to look good & present online how happy we are. Competition & low self-esteem, commercials & anxiety go hand in hand. We have hard times to really connect with people and to build the relationships we dream of. We are the generation porn. For my generation the…

As this year comes to an end …

As this year comes to an end many things in my life seem to find a closure, too. It’s nothing I actively seek, it seems to be more an effect of the work that I’ve done on myself. Some of these closures come from unexpected source, like receiving an email with an appology from a…

The pitfalls of love.

Love is a big word. Love is a feeling. Love is a vibration. And so much more. No matter how your perception of love is, one thing is for sure: Love is powerful. I’m writing for those faithful hearts including myself who are looking for love, for true love. Who are not satisfied with compromises…